Most people who know me know that I have a very good life and I’m a happy person. Most of them also know that my life was not always like that.
You see, years ago my life was turbulent and most of the time I was depressed, angry and frustrated. It was all because I lost who I was and had over-compromised ME -- without even knowing it.
Then one day I said “Enough is enough!” and I made a commitment to do whatever it took to change myself and to live the rest of my life being happy, authentic and more true to my values. That meant I needed to change me and my life 180 degrees. What a scary, yet hopeful, goal. I had no idea how to start or where to go for help.
It took a few years -- and lots of dedication -- but I achieved the life I so desperately wanted. The life I have now is so much more than I ever could have imagined.
Recently I felt a shift on the inside of me. It was like something was not right. I was unsettled. It brought back some feelings from my unhappy days. It disturbed me for a while until I remembered that the key to living a life of happiness is in knowing that life never stays the same. It’s always in motion. Life requires you to be present at all times and aware of what is going on the inside and on the outside of you.
What made the biggest difference was being in touch with my commitment to live a happy and fulfilled life. Simply put, I had to take time to notice my feelings. (Yes gentlemen, we do have feelings. They are there somewhere inside of you and you must find them. LOL!)
When I noticed something wasn’t feeling right I made it a point to stop and see what had happened so that I could determine why I was feeling that way. Back in the days when I was unhappy I knew I was frustrated and mad, but I really didn’t fully understand why. Gradually I learned the necessity of stopping and checking in with myself. I am so glad that now I know to make sure to do this!
Life reminds me of being in a raft floating down a river. At times the scenery is lush and beautiful and the river is calm -- life is good!
But, right around the bend turbulence is near. White water rapids and large obstacles are suddenly right in front of our eyes -- life is not wonderful.
Yet, after a stressful, overwhelmingly bumpy ride, a peaceful and calm area comes, a calm that in the difficult time you thought would never come.
When you grow on the inside to become a bigger and better person, the rough times in your life will be more easily managed. You’ll be able to stay in the calm the majority of the time -- life is very good!
Here are some tips:
- No matter how wonderful life is, it has its ups and downs. Acknowledge that!
- Work on yourself from the inside out to make better choices and be in your own calm places.
- Be aware of what’s happening on the inside and the outside of you. Be curious about it and ask yourself why?
- Be in touch with your feelings.
- Know that you’re not alone. Ask for help and take action on new and different ideas.
When things are not going your way, it’s how quickly you turn things around for the better that determines how successful you are at creating a life you love!
Can you relate to this topic? I’d love to hear from you so please share your comments, concerns and questions in the section below. If you prefer, you can email your private questions to me directly at Info@Frustration2Fulfillment.com. I’m here to help.
If you want to know more about any of these steps or you would like to share your thoughts send me an email. I’ll be happy to respond.
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Here’s to your best life!
Curt Gorlick, The Life Choice Strategist
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