I talk with a lot of people who say they are tired of living the way they’re feeling now. I often ask, “What are you feeling now?”
The some common answers I get are:
- “I’m not exactly sure what I’m feeling. I just know I’m frustrated and disappointed with the people in my life.”
- “I’m very angry because I go out of my way to help my siblings and friends and they don’t appreciate me.”
- “I’m feeling more alone married now than when I was single.”
Next I ask, “How long have you been feeling like that?”
- “It has been going on for the longest time, but I don’t know exactly when I started feeling this way.”
- “It seems like a lifetime, and I don’t even know how this happened. I used to be very happy!”
A lot of people are curious. They want to know how I achieved living a happy, fulfilled and successful life.
My short answer to that question is that I needed to first become aware, and I needed to focus on me for a change and realize where I needed change. I needed to be aware and present. With awareness comes opportunity… With opportunity comes change!
Let me share a little about my story around awareness. My journey to happiness never would have happened if it weren’t for awareness.
Most of my life I was happy, but gradually something happened.
Years ago when I was in my mid-twenties, many things in my life were going well. I had gotten married; I was deeply in love; we had two wonderful kids; we bought a home; I had a good job; and, we had great friends. When all that was going on I felt that life was great! I didn’t know it at the time, but I put my life on cruise control because everything was going so well. Why change a good thing?
Like most people, I kept doing what I was used to day in and day out. I was going through life without being present to what was really going on. Like so many people, I had learned to say “Yes” to the many things I should have said “No” to. I had also dishonored my values in the process. Another huge thing that happened is that with all the external happiness around me, I had completely forgotten that happiness comes from within.
I started blaming the many people in my life when I wasn’t happy. As time went on, the less happy I became. The less happy I was, the more angry and frustrated I became. I lost many sleepless nights thinking about how upset I was.
Then I had a pivotal moment. I was 49 years old and I blurted out to myself and the world, “I’m not going to live the second half of my life feeling the way I do now!” I added, “From now on I am going to be responsible for making myself happy.” And then I added, “From now on I’m going to bring a bigger and better person to any relationship I enter.”
That was the start of my journey – the journey that took me from Frustration to Happiness and to Fulfillment.
Are you feeling like this now? Do you know anybody who does? I’d like to hear from you. Let me know your thoughts in the comment section below.
Here’s to YOUR better life!
Curt Gorlick, The Life Choice Strategist