Do you want to get clear about what you want?
If so, read on.
Just because we get older doesn’t mean we get wiser. Actually, for boomers it often means that we just get stuck in our younger way of doing things. Here’s an example.
I remember talking with a new client. She was feeling quite…
As the years go by one would expect that baby boomers would be saying less and less that life is stressful, hectic and overwhelming. Yet a lot of boomers are finding it to be the opposite. But why?
Mostly it is because…
A New Year just started and it’s already February! I don’t know about you, but it seems the older we get the faster time goes, especially for us baby boomers.
Did you set any New Year’s resolutions? Have you started working them? Do your 2012 New Year resolutions and goals appear…
As a baby boomer myself, one of “The Sandwich Generation”, I spend a great amount of time talking with other boomers. Quite often we talk about the problems baby boomers face on a daily basis. Of course, we also reminisce. I’ve found that baby boomer issues and problems seem to…
For the longest time I struggled with the idea of making up my mind for what I truly wanted in life. What held me back was the thought that my decision was permanent. I don’t know where that idea came from, but it colored my every thought.
“What if I make the wrong decision?”
“What if I fail?”
“What if I make a fool of myself?”
All those “What If’s” kept me paralyzed from taking a leap of faith. As a result I stayed stuck in my comfort zone for years never deciding what I wanted. This indecision not only kept me stuck, it caused me to not live true to my values. It caused me to give up my boundaries and most importantly, I lost who I was in the process.
I didn’t realize it at the time, but the moment I lost who I was at my core was the moment I started losing my “Happy.” Continue reading...
You see, years ago my life was turbulent and most of the time I was depressed, angry and frustrated. It was all because I lost who I was and had over-compromised ME -- without even knowing it.
Then one day I said “Enough is enough!” and I made a commitment to do whatever it took to change myself and to live the rest of my life being happy, authentic and more true to my values. That meant I needed to change me and my life 180 degrees. What a scary, yet hopeful, goal. I had no idea how to start or where to go for help.
It took a few years -- and lots of dedication -- but I achieved the life I so desperately wanted. The life I have now is so much more than I ever could have imagined. Continue reading...
I started writing this week’s article about step two in my proven proprietary system that I created from my long journey from hell to happiness. As I began to write I got an email requesting for me to go deeper with “Awareness” which is step one in my proven system.
If you missed that article, just click here to read “I Used To Be Happy... What Happened?” You’ll find the article about half way down the page. As you scroll down, check out my personal note, “Awareness - The First Step To The Life You Love,” to see what inspired me to write it.
Now, back to that short, open-ended question I received by email. This question made me think back to the time I started transforming my life. The writer asked, “What did I become Aware of?” Continue reading...
Just the other night I spoke to a group of baby boomers who are either parenting their parents now or will soon be. There were also a lot of professionals in the group who provide services to seniors. We focused on the difficult and non-compliant parents. The room was filled with a lot of energy and lots of personal stories were shared.
Most people today already live in a state of overwhelm. Try to imagine what it would be like having to change your already overwhelmed life around because now you must be the parent to your parents. Not an easy task.
This is something most people do not plan for. I’m one of those people.
I spent 11 years parenting both of my parents at the same time. Within the last 2 years both my parents passed away.
Just to give you an idea about what you may face, here are some of the “What ifs” that we talked about. Continue reading...
Ever since I was a kid I wanted things to be different in my life. I also wanted to be different. I wanted to be smarter, better looking, taller, thinner and a million other things. I wanted to be liked and I always wanted more true friends.
It seemed like no matter how much I wanted things to change, they rarely did.
I used to think I was alone in this area, but as time went on I realized very few people are content with who they are and what they have. Most people want what they don’t have. Even those who we are envious of are generally not satisfied.
It wasn’t bad enough that I wanted to change and couldn’t, I also wanted to change a lot of people who were in my life.
Does that sound crazy? Continue reading...